Loneliness in Retirement Posts

You’ve lost your spouse - that person who shared the breakfast table with you.  As we reach the Silver Fox age, more and more of us are living alone.  People say that you’ll adjust, but you don’t feel that you ever will.   You’re right; your life won’t ever be the same as it was married to that person.  Yet, you must accept the death and move on. It won’t be easy.  Even ...

Now that you’re a lady of a certain age, (we’ll never ask!) you Silver Fox ladies are eligible to join a distinguished company of 1.5 million registered members in the Red Hat Society.  Members come from the United States and 30 other countries to celebrate the joy of sisterhood and aging women.   Celebrate is the watchword for this year, since the Red Hat Society is 10 years old in 20...

You’ve decided to meet.  Okay, set some ground rules.  Make sure your meeting is in a public place.  Small, intimate places should be avoided.  Places far from town are not a good idea.  Set a definite time and place, even describing what you’ll be wearing or some other unique way to identify you.  For example, “I’ll be wearing a tan shirt with brown pants.  I wi...

There have been studies on companionship when retiring.  If you are a housewife, you may have trouble with your spouse retiring.  The routine is different from what you are used to, because you are not accustomed to your better half being around all the time.  If you both work, studies have shown that it is better if both partners retire together.  Either way, companions that h...

You’ve been corresponding back and forth for a while with your hopefully ideal lady or gentleman.  You feel like you know them!  Beware at this stage because you may have a false sense of intimacy from those 67 e-mails….however, you only “know” them on paper or electronically and your correspondent could be different in person.   You would like to meet each other.  Great!&nbs...

Nursing Home; two taboo words that often evoke feelings of fear and loneliness.  A place where the elderly are placed and for the most part forgotten, except for occasional visits from family, youth groups, and/or individuals seeking community service hours. Thanks to recent increase and popularity of retirement communities, the dark, fearsome days of nursing homes are coming to a close. &nbs...

    Your ad has now been posted for a little while.  Are you receiving responses?  If not, you may want to return to your ad and add a picture, if you have not done so!  Or just maybe become proactive and begin to read and answer other ads from your target group.   Before you respond to an inquiry, carefully analyze the ad.  Review your own goals and the type...

    Ready for the second part in getting noticed in on-line dating?  The people with personal ads are just like you!  So, let’s write it!  Begin with a catchy working headline: Silver Fox Seeks Marriage.  Now, describe yourself, working from your list:  Honest, caring, fit, semi-retired doctor, DWM, 62, NS, ND, seeks DWF, 55 plus, NS, ND, to start a new life.&n...

You’ve decided that you’ve talked to the walls long enough and it is time to try the big mystery of on-line dating.  Should be simple – write a quick blurb about what I am and you need to be.  Well, the rules have changed.  Before you post that quick little personal profile, there are many things to consider.  First, what kind of relationship?  Friends only?  Pretty s...

 As many of us reach our 50s, we find ourselves without a partner.  For some, being alone creates a feeling of freedom from having to cater to someone else’s desires.  If you are alone and like it, don’t be pressured into finding a mate or dating.  Would you rather cuddle up with a dog or cat, than another human?  Humm…Don’t write a personal ad, just visit an animal shelte...